The blueprint for an effective life.
A job posting had come up and I was pursuing it. The process was going like it was supposed to: a strong resume, my networking was connecting, the telephone interview went well and led to the in-person interview. Everything was fitting together for a mid-life career change … and then the phone call, “Sorry, we went with the other candidate”.
Eric Lowther is a CREST Board member and graduate of the CREST program. He has a heart for men busy in leadership, and needing a way to re-think life and leadership. Here is a new delivery method offered by CREST:
I’m not sure what I want, but I’m pretty sure I won’t be happy until I get it.
One day Alice came to a fork in the road and saw a Cheshire cat in a tree.
“Which road do I take?” she asked.
“Where do you want to go?” was his response.
“I don’t know,” Alice answered.
“Then,” said the cat, “it doesn’t matter.”
The first time I remember reading this I was in my twenties, reading Alice in Wonderland to my young daughter. I thought, “Well, duh! Of course.” Now, in my 50’s, I realize what a profound statement this is.
Recently I was on a trip outside my province. After a long plane ride I had come directly to a meeting. I met several people and had important conversations. Before the next meeting I went to the ‘men’s room’ and as I walked by the mirror I saw to my embarrassment that my hair was a mess. Here I was in meetings, acting perfectly normal, thinking everything is okay – while everybody else could clearly see my messy hair. It was an embarrassing moment. It became a learning moment, a perfect illustration of leaders who are not fully self-aware. There are many leaders walking around, acting normal, unaware that everyone else can see that something is amiss.
The North Yungas Road in Bolivia used to be known as the Highway of Death. Hundreds of people went over the edge every year. Mid-life can also be dangerous.
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My granddaughter has a vivid imagination. After the initial fun and excitement of seeing each other again, she’ll revert to her favorite game of pretending. “Who are you?” she asks. That’s the signal she’s inviting me into an imaginary world where we can choose to be heroes and live out an adventure. As I desperately search my limited imagination for an engaging character, it occurs to me this simple question is a profound one when it’s asked at midlife.
Ah, the sweet spot. If you’re in it, you know it. You work with passion, build, innovate, move the organization forward and inspire others to join you. You love doing this! Sweet spots are the midlife reward for years of hanging in there to develop character and competence.