Midlife Paralysis

“Stuck” is a word I sometimes hear from people at midlife. They usually are referring to a deep exhaustion caused by problems that just won’t go away, no matter how many times they tackle them. Out of options, out of energy, stuck. Not being able to move means you are paralysed.

Learn to Dream Again at Midlife

My granddaughter stumped me the other day with a simple question, “Who are you?” Well, that was pretty obvious — “I’m your grandpa,” I said. But when she asked the same question again, I realized she was inviting me to join her in an imaginary game. We would both pretend to be someone, and then play. Seeing I was stumped, she suggested I could be Robin Hood, and she Lady Marion. It came as a bit of a jolt that I was not very good at this kind of thinking, while she did it intuitively.

A Penetrating Question

My granddaughter has a vivid imagination. After the initial fun and excitement of seeing each other again, she’ll revert to her favorite game of pretending. “Who are you?” she asks. That’s the signal she’s inviting me into an imaginary world where we can choose to be heroes and live out an adventure. As I desperately search my limited imagination for an engaging character, it occurs to me this simple question is a profound one when it’s asked at midlife.

Who Moved My Sweet Spot?

Ah, the sweet spot. If you’re in it, you know it. You work with passion, build, innovate, move the organization forward and inspire others to join you. You love doing this! Sweet spots are the midlife reward for years of hanging in there to develop character and competence.

Limitations

You’re a leader – you have a hot-line to God. You resolve conflicts and navigate awkward moments with ease, unselfishly meet everyone’s needs and interact graciously with strong personalities. You’re a highly organized visionary with a warm, commanding presence… and a cape, leotards and a big letter L on your chest. But have you ever considered the importance of your limitations?

Why it’s good to feel a bit disoriented at midlife

At CREST we’ve been working with midlife leaders for ten years. Studying midlife … teaching … dialoguing … coaching … experiencing the journey ourselves. Paying fierce attention to midlife matters has helped us develop clarity around this issue. Here’s one thing we have noticed: everyone that signs up for CREST expresses one or more of these feelings: (Note: these comments come directly from students, actual quotes) …

Strange things happen at midlife

A strange thing happened to me after years of good work. I began to feel … well … unsettled. And yet I had been doing the same thing for almost two decades. You’d think I would be settled by now. Everything was going well; it’s not that I was having ‘escapist’ feelings. I remember one friend saying, ‘Well Dan, you are in a good spot. Congratulations.’ Yes, things were good. I did notice, though, that I was feeling …

Three Things I Hated About Leadership

Dr. Dan Reinhardt …
After more than two decades in leadership I remember reflecting one day over the ongoing load and stress I was feeling. I was tired, and my mind started looking for explanations, reasons why I was feeling stressed. While there are many things that stress a leader, what emerged were three things I especially hated.

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